Confidence is believing in yourself to do what
has to be done. It is the belief that we can do something. It is the inner
feeling that whatever we undertake, we can accomplish. It is more or less the same
as your self-esteem.
Do you often have an inner voice of “I can’t do
it”, “I am hopeless”, “I have never done it before, and so I know that I cannot
do it now too”, “I’ll lose, and I’ll be the last”? Some people are not prepared
to try because they are afraid that other people might think less of them. Or
some people may think that if they cannot win, there is no point trying. These
people have no faith in themselves that they will succeed, because they have no
confidence.
Everything can be learnt. You learnt how to
walk, you learnt how to run, and you learnt how to eat too. So, you can as well
learn to be confident. Confidence is a learning process where you gain
experience from that failure and trying again with more energy, more commitment
and greater determination than before. Here are some tips to gain
self-confidence (Economy, 2014; Popovich, 2015):
1. Stay
away from negativity and bring on the positivity.
Learn to talk to yourself positively. When the
negative thoughts come, learn to replace them with positive ones. For example,
I can’t = I can, I won’t = I will, I will try my best = I will do my best. This
is because when you think you can or can’t, you are probably right.
2. Change
your body language and image.
This is where smiling, eye contact and posture
come into picture. Smiling and having eye contact with the person you speak not
just spice up your confidence, it also makes the people around you feel
comfortable. Bear in mind that first impression is essentially important.
3. Don’t
accept failure and never give up!
Failure is just a meet or a task. It’s not you,
it’s the performance. Learn to separate who you are from what you do. The greatest
achievement is not never failing but by getting up every time you fall. Keep
trying and never give up!
4. Be
prepared.
Learn everything that you need to know.
When you are backed up by all these knowledge, your natural confidence will show
on your face.
5. Create
a great list
Life is full of challenges and there are times
where it is difficult for us to head up and be confident. That’s the moment
when you start to make a list of your achievements and strengths to remind
yourself that what you have been through build the amazing you now.
I was once a person with low self-confidence and
I was always pessimistic about everything happened around me. That’s when I was
determined to step out of my comfort zone to make changes. Accept who you are
and learn to like and respect yourself. We have to meet new challenges with the
expectation that anything is possible. Chin up and smile!
Reference
Popovich, S. (2015) 8 Tips on How to
improve Your Self-Confidence [online], 21st August
[Accessed: 5th July
2017]
Economy, P. (2014) 5 Powerful Ways
to Boost Your Confidence [online], 14th October 2014
[Accessed: 5th July
2017]
By:
Yau Che Yan, BAF1541
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